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Logic is your only friend

Theorem: You don't need any friends.


  • Friendship is selfless. Selflessness is what distinguishes a relationship based on friendship from one based on romance or politics — by definition, if you're a true friend, your friend's needs matter more to you than your own.
  • If your friend's needs matter more to you than your own, then you only need your friend if your friend needs you.
  • Therefore, if you need a friend, he isn't a friend of yours.
  • Therefore, you don't need any friends.


April 24, 2003 12:29 PM

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Hey, i'll be your friend if you need one.

It seems in this year's post-pesach period a lot of people around me are having friend problems. I described to a number of people i know these last few days, for me, have been about "loyality" in friendships and relationships, which certainly relates to mutual needs -- knowing on which side of your bread the butter is on.

It's animal to need.
It's divine to give outside of need.


Posted by rob adams on April 25, 2003 1:19 PM

I actually don't really think friendship is about needing. You can't generalize too much across all the different sorts of friendships there are, but an aspect crucial to at least some of them seems to be wanting, but without needing. And while the "reasoning" above is obviously flawed, I think there's a sense in which it's nonetheless true -- true friendships are given freely ("outside of need," as you say).

Posted by M on April 26, 2003 12:31 PM

You're sounding positively Derridean these days!

Posted by Brad on April 26, 2003 4:46 PM

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